Laura and Ian had been together for a year when he began making regular requests for her to watch porn with him to “spice things up” in their bedroom. Up until then, Laura had only read erotica on her own to get herself in the mood. She was reluctant to watch porn in the past because she’d read that women who worked in the porn industry were often mistreated and underpaid. Wanting to keep her sex life healthy, she agreed to watch porn with Ian after one of their date nights.
“I wanted to like it, this porn he was so enthusiastic to share with me to get us in the mood,” Laura shared as she told me about her experience watching pornography with her boyfriend Ian. “But as it progressed, I couldn’t get over the blatant objectification of women. I could tell the women in the video weren’t actually enjoying themselves. And rather than turning me on, I was repulsed and disappointed.”
Lesbians have great sex, and we have the data to prove it. Research published in the journal Archives of Sexual Nature found that while straight people have sex more often, lesbians report having far more orgasms — 86 percent of the time — compared to their heterosexual counterparts, who orgasm only 65 percent of the time.
But how do we have this earth-shattering, orgasm-giving sex? It’s not just about oral sex— though there’s plenty of that, too. To avoid the dreaded “lesbian bed death” thought to come with long-term relationships, lesbians have to get more creative with our sex positions to keep things exciting.
Whether you’ve been together for 2 months or 20 years, here are some of the best lesbian sex positions you can incorporate into your sex life to keep the passion flowing.
Oral sex. Cunnilingus. Eating out. Giving head.
Whatever you call it, going down on a person with avulva is an amazing experience for everyone involved—if you do it right. (So for the love of vulvas,please stop drawing the ABC’s with your tongue.)
Good oral sex can make you feel like you have superpowers, whether you’re the giving or receiving partner. Going down on a woman (or person with a vulva) requires finesse. It requires confidence. Most of all, it requires you to understand what you’re doing and why.
Instead of turning oral sex into a spelling bee or guessing game, take a look at our tips for both giving and recieving oral sex, as well as some quotes from both oral sex givers and receivers.
We’re not saying they’re totally fail-proof oral sex tips, but they are fun and sexy, with the potential to produce mind-blowing orgasms!
If you are familiar with the names of people considered thought leaders of sex in the 20th century, you might think of Alfred Kinsey, William Masters, and Sigmund Freud (the latter being especially debatable given his... questionable stances on female sexuality). Like in other facets of history, women and their own achievements tend to be overlooked. But we're here to try and change that.
Meet some of the women who changed our understanding of sex in the 20th century.