In the true spirit of destigmatizing sexual health and wellness, let’s answer the question “how much is too muchmasturbation?”
A Swedish proverb says thatshared joy is double joy, and that is certainly true for mutual masturbation. Whether you make it foreplay in close contact or the main course with long-distance partners, add a sex toy or two, explore kink and other role-play scenarios, it’s a versatile act with the potential to be so much more than a quick, side-by-side wank.
Theorgasm gap is simply the difference in frequency of orgasm between men and women. (Stay with me; I know the heteronormativity isn’t ideal but, until recently, most studies mainly surveyed cisgender men and women, many who identified as heterosexual. We’re going to discuss a study that compares the orgasm gap between LGBTQ+ individuals a bit later in this article, too!)
Maybe you’ve tried using a vibrator a few times before, or maybe it’s your first time. Regardless, learning how to use a new vibrator and having a good time can be a bit of a feat if you’re not used to it.
So you want to try double penetration, but your Google searches are bringing up porn fantasies and positions that can only be achieved by world class gymnasts in outer space rather than actual advice. We can relate.
Scientific studies show that pain and pleasure are processed in the same area of the brain. The ventral tegmental area becomes electrified when we feel pleasure from instant gratification or long-term personal development — think orgasms (instant) or learning a new language (long-term). When this area lights up, dopamine is released throughout the body.